Keep Calm & Carry On Parenting (Holiday Edition!).

img_7449Lets just start this post by being ‘real’ and ‘honest’, I do lose my patience, shout and throw the odd meltdown moment in our house.  I’m only human, and we don’t live in a happy Instagram life all of the time! Our kids do get crabby, tired, argumentative and sometimes bored in the holidays.

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So with several school holidays worth of experience here are some key ways I find that do make the holidays run smoother.  I find that everyone ticks along better if I note down or make a strong mental note to myself of ways and means of keeping us all on track so everything flows better for me and then in turn everyone else. So here are my top tips to keep calm and carry on parenting!

  1. Make lists – There can be a lot going on and my mind can get easily distracted by the demands of our brood.  So quick daily lists of meals, to do lists and activity ideas are always helpful.
  2. Get up early and be first downstairs.  Not always do I want to leave my bed early in the holidays but for days where you feel like you need an upper hand then do it, for your own sanity.  Get downstairs and get ahead of the game, its amazing what you can do with even just 15 minutes to yourself.  Get the washing on, breakfast all sorted and the house tidy, whatever you need to do to help get sorted.
  3. Take 5 – In fact take a few 5s, it’s your holiday as well if you’re off work or a stay at home Mum. For me, a quiet coffee outside listening to the birds or chatting to a friend is my go-to self care 5 minutes.
  4. Keep a simple routine going.  For us a simple routine consists of some boundaries still in place for the kids such as their normal chores of making beds, emptying the dishwasher etc..
  5. Don’t let the whole street into your house everyday!  I have been there, you want to be the Mum who lets them all play at home with their friends.  Yes this is good but don’t get sucked into being the permanent fun house with the kids in your street.  You will be the one that gets the mess to clear up and you could easily turn into fun police.  I much prefer having a rule of they play in the garden or out the front of our house, especially with good weather.
  6. Company – plan get-togethers with other adult company; play dates that are a good match provide you with sanity and another pair of hands. I have a friend with whom we take it in turns to host and the kids are such a good match it makes for a pleasant day all round.
  7. Clubs and Holiday Camps – a godsend for when you need to work but also to keep tweens and teens active, socialising and entertained. Leaving you to work, give you some peace or to focus some time on younger siblings.
  8. Balance – I like a mix of planned out days and also free days that we just go with the flow and see what happens. Too many planned activities leads to a tired household and too many at home unstructured days can lead to bored fall outs. Whatever your happy balance of days out versus days in, try and recognise what is needed.
  9. Don’t let them stay up later every night- They need to have some normal bedtime routine days and so do I! It’s hard in the holidays if you feel like you and your partner don’t get more than an hour alone before flopping straight into bed like frazzled fraggles!
  10. Number 9 leads me to this one; try and get a holiday for yourselves and ask a family member, friend or sitter to have the children for a few hours, day or days so you can spend some quality quieter time with each other to recharge your parenting patience. This one we haven’t always been able to do, but when we do get the odd hour to escape for a date lunch or coffee date it’s really benefited us all. After all it’s good for the kids to have a fresh face around as well.
  • Finally all that’s left to say is, I hope your children enjoy their summer break and that you come out the other side calmly and not quite so frazzled fraggle like!

 

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9 Comments

  1. rosiedoal
    July 19, 2018 / 2:05 pm

    What a great post – and some brilliant advice. I will be following some, if not all, of this to avoid my own summer holiday meltdowns! x

    • teamsteinblog
      Author
      July 28, 2018 / 7:35 am

      Thank you Rosie x

  2. July 20, 2018 / 7:41 am

    I love this! And very much needed right now. With a four year old half the week and another little one on the way, it’s good to start taking in some hints and tips on how to stay cool when they’re driving me nuts!

    • teamsteinblog
      Author
      July 28, 2018 / 7:35 am

      Aw how exciting to be having a new bundle ☺️

  3. July 20, 2018 / 12:16 pm

    Some great tips here Charlotte – I love your point about taking 5 after all it is supposed to be our holidays too and it’s something I’m usually terrible at doing but will be taking your advice this summer! Thanks for linking up to #coolmumclub with this and have a lovely summer x

    • teamsteinblog
      Author
      July 28, 2018 / 7:36 am

      Thank you Tayla ☺️ Have a wonderful summer and I hope you get a break xx

  4. July 20, 2018 / 10:45 pm

    Haha, good advice! I don’t have a LO at school yet, but I’ve seen many parents of older children pulling their hair out before the first week is even done. Lists are amazing, I make them all the time and don’t know what I’d do without them! #CoolMumClub

    • teamsteinblog
      Author
      July 28, 2018 / 7:37 am

      I’m newly converted to lists and don’t know why I didn’t write them sooner! Thank you for reading x

  5. July 25, 2018 / 12:54 pm

    Yes to all of this! I keep bedtime as normal as possible except at weekends when Hubby is home. It makes such a difference. And being the first one up also helps me when I need the upper hand. So far I find it’s getting used to spending so much time together again that takes getting used to. Ellie is booked into a holiday club one or two days a week for the whole of the summer. It helps so much break up the time and let the sisters have a break too. Then there is the great point of loose plans. I have lots of plans for the summer but none of it is actually in the diary. That way I can check the weather/child tiredness and decided the day before which activity we will be doing. Thank you for joining #ThursdayTeam

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